“Trauma has the effect of organizing the lives of trauma
survivors into life pre-trauma and life post trauma. Life post trauma involves knowing things that
perhaps before were not known at all, or only minimally known or
acknowledged. Life post-trauma means
having come into contact with the knowledge of certain things, like mortality,
that once having contacted or experienced, can no longer be ignored or
denied."
"The experience I just described
was equivalent to a tectonic shift for the individual for whom it
occurred.”
“To experience something like
I described, is to come into contact with unparalleled psychological and
emotional pain.” The impulse is to get
away from the pain and to distance ones self.
What happens when you pull away from your own emotional feelings is a
profound alienation from yourself, your world, and others. This results in pervasive avoidance, mood
instability, low quality of life. Emotional
numbing occurs. Humans are intrinsically
social creatures and being alienated from that, having that cut off, is
life-threatening. It’s a vicious
cycle. Trauma fundamentally involves
disconnection.
“What people are forced
to wrestle with in the aftermath of a traumatic event is how to reconstruct a
life, and a worldview, when what used to be there has been shattered.” There is no more taking things for granted. PTSD involves dysfunctional attempts to
reassert control in one's life. By the time people
seek treatment they have narrowed the range of their existence. People rarely leave the house, have lost
contact with friends and sometimes all of their family members. They think to themselves “If I control my world in this way, I will be
physically and emotionally safe.” The
outside world becomes very dangerous and out of control.
“The urge to pull away from pain is
instinctual.” It is a normal reaction to
abnormal events.
The solution is re-engagement. Re-engage with yourself and with those around you. No one specific treatment makes people heal…”Healing happens in the context of a connection with another human being, when qualities of safety, empathy, and genuine understanding are present.” Therapy only works in the context of this kind of relationship. People can endure and heal from horrific events if they have even one person that they can connect with. Recovery can be transformational, like a a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. “It is the struggle to re-emerge that is crucial to the process of transformation.” Without the struggle the new entity will not appear.
Trauma is made worse by the happiness myth- if we are not happy all
the time, something is wrong. Sometimes life doesn't work that way, sometimes we need to face hard things and not be happy in order to heal.
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Jordan Peterson: Psychopaths, malevolence & predation
What really harms people and causes trauma is not usually tragedy but encountering malevolence. People find it difficult or impossible to believe that what occurred actually could happen to them, that it could occur at all. Peterson describes psychopathy, a condition in which the perpetrator intentionally harms people, as a serious challenge to most people's world view but that beyond that is a worse condition in which the perpetrator doesn't value their own life at all in addition to not valuing the lives of others (I believe that what he is referring to here is what is generally called sociopathy or ASPD for Antisocial Personality Disorder). This goes beyond what he says is a sort of self-interest displayed by the psychopath, it's as if this person is saying that they do not value life at all, including their own, but that they are going to take out as many other people as they can before taking themselves out.
What really harms people and causes trauma is not usually tragedy but encountering malevolence. People find it difficult or impossible to believe that what occurred actually could happen to them, that it could occur at all. Peterson describes psychopathy, a condition in which the perpetrator intentionally harms people, as a serious challenge to most people's world view but that beyond that is a worse condition in which the perpetrator doesn't value their own life at all in addition to not valuing the lives of others (I believe that what he is referring to here is what is generally called sociopathy or ASPD for Antisocial Personality Disorder). This goes beyond what he says is a sort of self-interest displayed by the psychopath, it's as if this person is saying that they do not value life at all, including their own, but that they are going to take out as many other people as they can before taking themselves out.