This blog is a way of sharing the information and resources that have helped me to recover my son Roo from an Autism Spectrum Disorder. What I have learned is to view our symptoms as the results of underlying biological cause, which can be identified and healed. I say "our symptoms" because I also have a neuro-immune disorder called Myalgic Encephalomyelitis.

And, of course, I am not a doctor (although I have been known to impersonate one while doing imaginative play with my son)- this is just our story and information that has been helpful or interesting to us. I hope it is helpful and interesting to you!


Monday, April 28, 2025

On "Bettelheiming"

 

I began working with children with autism back in 1995, and most of the history of autism before the mid 2000s has been erased (enabling new narratives to be presented and accepted) so I want to add some of it back here. Bettelheim was a complete fraud and charlatan. He fabricated any credentials and expertise he claimed to have, and wrote his book "The Empty Fortress" based entirely on conjecture. Despite this, his book and theory (the notorious "refrigerator mother" theory) were unquestioningly accepted by mainstream medicine and for decades all treatment of autism was based entirely on his "work"- no research or independent inquiry was done at all. What this meant was that children with autism and their mothers were sent to psychiatrists who interpreted everything the child did as a sign of alienation by the mother (for example, a child who had a stim of knocking on things was said to be "knocking on his mother's emotions, asking to be let in"). No attempt was made to try to understand the person with autism or help them or teach them or ease their distress. The mothers were told that they had caused their child's autism (remember that at this time, autism meant the form that we now call "profound" or "level 3" autism only) and were shunned. Often they were made to wait outside because they were told they were so heinous for what they had done that they weren't worthy or deserving of human treatment. There were times when a child died in an accident (remember, we're talking about level 3 autism in a world with zero accommodations or awareness) and the mothers were told that the child had intentionally unalived themselves to get away from them. There were mass self-unalivings of mothers at this time because society trusted and believed what the doctors said without question (until Bernie Rimland came along, who has also largely been erased, and who finally did some research and created the beginnings of the concept of autism we have now of it being a neurodevelopmental disorder), and the weight of that blame and self-blame was more than many could cope with.

When people say that the history of autism treatment is filled with "snake oil salesmen" this began with western medicine. The word "quackery" referring to doctors was first coined to describe AMA doctors when they were new on the scene. They never acknowledged or apologized for the harm they did by embracing Bettelheim with such anti-scientific fervor. "Bettelheiming" is much more than not being believed- it's being scapegoated, bullied into silence, blame-shifted and victim-blamed and it was often deadly. If you listen to what families of people with Level 3 autism have been saying this past month, things haven't gotten much better, only now it's parts of the autism community itself who have been co-opted into this bullying. This is why history matters. This is what can happen when it gets erased. This is the tip of the iceberg of just the history of autism, let alone all the other history that has been erased in America.